The 8 Benefits of Being Single in Recovery
You’re single in recovery. Perhaps this is the first time you’ve been single in a long time. Many of us seek happiness outside of ourselves, so it makes sense that – besides looking for a solution with alcohol and other drugs – we searched for happiness in relationships and frivolous sexcapades.
Being single in recovery isn’t the end of the world. In fact, it’s quite the opposite: it’s the beginning of a new life, one in which you are able to be intimate with yourself first and with the perfect partner later, when the time is right. Here are the 8 benefits of being single in recovery.
#1. You get to know yourself/better sense of self
Being clean and sober and working a program allows you to get to know yourself. And being single in recovery allows this to unfold more quickly, without the distraction of a significant other.
#2. You learn how to not be codependent
Many of us who have dealt with substance abuse and addiction also struggle with codependency issues. The good news is that we can learn to grow, change our ways, and become independent. And this will prime us for a strong, healthy relationship in the future.
#3. You can focus on your recovery
They say this is a selfish program. And it is. Of course, it’s about helping others, too. But, by “selfish” we mean that it’s important to put yourself first (for once!) and give yourself the best gift possible: sobriety. Remember: you’re worth having a happy, healthy, and sober life.
#4. You learn about your interests/figure out what you enjoy
Those of us who have spent any time in active addiction know that, when we get clean and sober, we often don’t know what to do with ourselves. We never really got to know ourselves – our likes and dislikes, our interests, hobbies, etc. Being single in recovery will give you the freedom to spend time discovering these things and developing hobbies and talents (see #7).
#5. You realize that you don’t need to be in a relationship to validate yourself
Again, being in recovery and single means spending time with yourself and with friends, allowing you to become more independent. And with independence comes confidence. You will realize something really amazing: that you are awesome by yourself; you don’t need a relationship to define you or to validate you.
#6. You forge deeper relationships with fellow women in the program
As women in recovery, it’s important to be able to be close with other sober, trustworthy women. Many of us have trust issues when it comes to men and women. Meeting and forming bonds with other women helps us grow.
#7. You have more free time to spend however you want
Another benefit of being in single in recovery is having freedom – to do whatever you want; you’re discovering your interests and hobbies. You won’t feel guilty about not spending time with that significant other when you’re out doing the things you enjoy.
#8. You can get clear on what you want in a partner and a relationship
By taking advantage of being single in recovery, such as enjoying the benefits listed above, you will be that whole, well-rounded, healthy, and happy woman that you were always meant to be. That said, you will know what it is you want in life and in a partnership with someone and, when the time is right, you will be ready for that “10” relationship with a special someone.
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