10 Signs Your Relationship is Getting in the Way of Your Recovery
When we’re in a relationship and we are in love (or think we are), we tend to see everything through rose colored glasses. Most of the time, it’s because we don’t want to listen to our friends or our supports who are telling us what’s really going on. In my experience, most women in recovery have to go through a bad relationship in recovery to learn from it (but it’s also not a requirement.) I thought of some of the most obvious signs your relationship is getting in the way of your recovery.
10 Signs Your Relationship is Getting in the Way of Your Recovery…
1. You aren’t going to meetings anymore because you’d rather spend time with your boyfriend/girlfriend. (Between work and possibly school, you make all the time possible for your bf/gf)
2. You pretty much don’t have a sponsor anymore because you’ve been too busy to contact her. (By this time, it would be way too awkward to call her..that’s what you tell yourself.)
3. You never see your friends or supports because you are so busy with your love life. (Once again, you need all the time you can get with your honey.)
4. You don’t have any commitments or even a home group anymore. (Commitments involve committing to things and the only thing you’re committed to is your relationship.)
5. You have no sponsees because it didn’t fit your schedule meeting with them. (Sponsees can be so needy, and between everything you got going on and moving in with your sweetie you don’t have time for all that.)
6. You can’t remember the last time you went to a meeting, or did anything for your recovery. (It’s seriously been at least a month or two, and that’s just a guess.)
7. The only time you go to meetings is when you two go together. (Even then, you go to his meetings and sit with him and only converse with him.)
8. You are starting to get miserable and may have even have had thoughts about drinking or using. (Sleeping all the time, never wanting to leave the house and have contemplated buying alcohol or drugs, these are all bad signs.)
9. You get really defensive when people ask about your recovery and your relationship. (Our relationship is perfect and I am happily sober! Don’t tell me otherwise!)
10. You consult your significant other for advice on everything. (He knows everything about me and has my best interest in mind so therefore, he gives the best possible advice.)
If you are in a relationship and any of these apply to you, call your supports or sponsor or go to a meeting. It doesn’t matter how long it’s been since you’ve talked to your sponsor, I GUARANTEE she will be so glad to hear from you and the same with your supports. In recovery, us women stick together and you’d be surprised how understanding and there for you they will be. Don’t let your relationship take over your life and affect your recovery. Without taking care of yourself and your sobriety, you won’t have a relationship at all.If you or a loved one is struggling with substance abuse or addiction, please call toll free 1-800-777-9588.