11 Signs You’re Winning at Life (Even If It Doesn’t Feel Like It)
It’s all about perspective, baby. Here are 11 signs you’re winning at life (even if it doesn’t feel like it).
1: Your parents call you everyday
Although this might get to be a little annoying, the fact that you actually have a relationship with your parents now and it’s a pretty good one is a sign that you’re winning at life. After putting up with you all these years, they’re your biggest fans and they deserve some thanks.
2: People constantly ask you for advice
You might not always be up for giving it, especially when you have like 5 sponsees but, whether it’s as a sponsor, a sober support, or simply as a friend, your input is sought by others. The fact that others seek your advice means that you have a good perspective on life and are, therefore, winning.
3: You find yourself asking for help
It’s actually a good thing that asking for help isn’t such a big deal anymore. After all, you are used to receiving support from others in the program, like your sponsor and sober supports and you know that it’s important to open your mouth and share when you’re going through something. No one can do life without the support of others and you’re no exception.
4: You make mistakes…
Of course you make mistakes. Everyone does. But, when you can actually own up to them then, you’re doing pretty well at this whole life thing. If you’re working the steps, you know how important it is to take your personal inventory and when you’re wrong you admit it. This is also a sign of maturity.
5: Your feelings get hurt
You’re a human being, not a cyborg. So, it’s inevitable that you’ll have your feelings hurt at some point, the important thing – and another sign you’re winning at life, even if it doesn’t feel like it – is that you don’t hold onto grudges because you know that means having resentments and these are toxic to your recovery.
6: People ask you to do favors for them
This is a good sign. It means people actually trust you. This was definitely not the case when you were in your active addiction, amirite? Nowadays, people don’t think twice about leaving their purses and wallets unattended in your presence and they ask you to babysit for them. If you stop to think about it, you’re definitely winning at life when people can trust you again.
7: You have a ‘only’ a few friends
Just like having others trust you is a big deal, you are now able to trust other people, too. Before, you might have had a lot of “friends,” who most likely consisted of people that kept you around for what you could give them and likewise, you kept them around for what you could get from them. You may only have a few friends now but, you’re definitely killin’ it when you have close friends you can trust.
8: Your boss keeps piling responsibilities on you
And your co-workers actually like you. Where you used to bounce from job to job or weren’t even able to go to work at all, you’re now a responsible employee. This is a good thing!
9: You’re busy
Even though at times you might think you’re too busy, it’s a good thing that you actually have things to do. You’re only “problem” is that you have to practice balancing it all. But, now there’s work, family, friends, hobbies, chores, and more that, you know, other successful people deal with, too.
10: You’re not experiencing big successes (right now)
But…you celebrate the ‘little victories in life.’ You catch yourself smiling and feeling grateful for the little stuff, such as when a stranger holds the door for you or you get a letter the old-fashioned way – in the mail. One trait of the super happy is that they look for (and find) the good in all the everyday stuff.
11: You’re broke
Although you’re no longer supporting an expensive drug habit, you still find yourself low on funds. But, this is after you’ve paid all of your bills, gone grocery shopping for the week, and probably even bought yourself a little something, like a new top or a manicure. It’s time to start looking at this whole being broke thing a little differently. You have a roof over your head, food in your belly, and clothes on your back so, you’re doing pretty alright.
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