What to do when he just stops calling
You and this guy are having a great time together, everything seems perfect! What do you do if out of nowhere, he just stops calling? Before we got sober most of us would go drink or drug this problem away; now that we are in recovery it isn’t that easy. We actually have to deal with our emotions and I’ve thought of a couple different ways to help you deal with that jerk that just stopped calling you.
What to do when he just stops calling: Realize That It Is Not about You
The first and one of the most important things to do is to realize that this is not about you. Clearly he must have a lot of things that he needs to work on in his life if his solution to whatever is going on is to just end all contact. Don’t take it personally, I know it’s easier said than done but just remember it’s his stuff and not yours.
What to do when he just stops calling: Meditation & Meetings
Something that always really helps me get centered and focusing on the present moment is meditation and meetings. When issues with guys, friends or family happen, getting out of myself always makes me feel better. In meditation you can just be present and not stressing the past and re-playing everything that happened between you two. Going to meetings really helps because you can help another alcoholic or addict who is suffering, and what better way to get your mind off of him than to help someone else?
What to do when he just stops calling: Do Not Call Him
No matter how bad you want to, do not call him. He stopped calling you for some reason and whatever that may be; you don’t need to call him over and over to find out why he isn’t calling you. Trust me, just delete his contact from your cell phone and leave it alone. There is no need to go all ‘stalker status’ on him just to find out why he isn’t calling. I know it’s not always fun being single, but it also isn’t any fun twisting a guy’s arm so he will talk to you.
What to do when he just stops calling: Recognize Your Potential
You are beautiful and unique and if he can’t see that, there is someone better for you out there that will. Recognize you are worthy of a healthy, loving relationship with a man who treats you like a precious gem. Don’t settle for anything less. One day down the road, you are probably going to look back on this experience and be so grateful that he stopped calling you. Not today, but one day you will!
What to do when he just stops calling: Talk to Your Supports & Spend Time with Friends
Stay close to your sober supports and spend time with them and with your friends. There is nothing that will keep you unhappy longer like sitting around in self-pity. Feel those emotions and talk about them with the women in the rooms. Try attending more women’s-meetings and doing fun activities with the girls. This is the time to really stay close to the people in your life that make you happy and are there for you. When I went through rough times with a guy, the women in this program really held me together and carried me through it. So just remember you are a great person and it will get better! If you or a loved one is struggling with substance abuse or addiction, please call toll free 1-888-672-4435.