Could Dedication Be Your Downfall?
Dedication is defined as the “quality of being committed to a task or purpose.” In essence, that sounds like a great attribute to have. However, when your dedication holds you back from truly pursuing your passions in life, can it be more of a downfall than an achievement? A recent article in Psychology Today believes so and expands on this very idea.
Have you had goals and dreams that you’ve wanted to achieve, but did not do it because of previously set obligations? Perhaps your decision-making is based on the economy, your children, parents, or occupation. We all have excuses, some of them more valid than others. However, often it is a good idea to step back and ask yourself if you are making any progress in achieving what you truly want.
The big question boils down to, “Who is making your decision.” Another question is whether your dedication is just an excuse to stay safe. For example, perhaps you’re a manager of a new company and feel too obligated to leave the job. Maybe you are eager to move but are afraid of disappointing your friends and family. Whatever it is, often people find reasons to avoid even talking about a major decision. Instead, they focus on the reasons that it would not work out, and how it would result in chaos.
Change is scary, and we all struggle with it. However, it does not matter if your change or not. Change happens. Even if you stay in the same spot, change will be occurring around you. Sometimes it is better to be proactive in change rather than reactive. The author of the article continues to say that drastic changes are not necessarily the solution. You do not need to rush and end your marriage or quit your job tomorrow. Although that may sound tempting, there are always consequences to big decisions that need to consideration.
Rather, it is best to flesh out the vision you have for your life and take steps to get to where you want to go. Write out a plan that you can begin today; even it is something small. Before you start thinking about all the obligations and commitments you have, focus on the small adjustments you can make in your life that makes change easier.
Here are some questions you can ask yourself to overcome your indecisiveness.
- Will you be happy with your life a year from now if you do not make a change?
- What is your excuse for staying that you keep repeating over and over?
- Even if you do not have a clear plan for change, what steps would move you forward?
- Do you have someone you can talk to about your dreams and goals without judgment?
- What are your inner strengths?
Regardless of what you decide to do with the next chapter of your life, don’t assume that the people around you won’t support your dreams. You may even be surprised by the positive reaction. Even if you do get a negative response, remember that the person you are doing this for is yourself. Often, people are just as hesitant as you are and are expressing their personal insecurity.
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Author: Shernide Delva