10 Signs it’s time to find a new sober house
It can be really challenging to know when it’s time to make some changes in your sober living environment. My best advice is to speak with your sponsor and supports and get their opinion but I’ve made a list of 10 signs it’s time to find a new sober house.
10 Signs it’s time to find a new sober house…
1. You aren’t getting along with any of the girls in the house
If it has become more and more difficult for you and the girls you are living with to get along, maybe it’s time to seek another living arrangement. If you’ve spoken to your sponsor and are able to see your part but still can’t manage to live in a civilized way with each other – start looking elsewhere.
2. A lot of people are relapsing around you and not getting kicked out
If you’re living in a halfway house where girls continuously keep relapsing and not suffering any consequences, you might want to reevaluate this as a good sober environment. The house you’re living in might just be after the money and not actually trying to help people get sober.
3. Your halfway house manager and/or roommates are getting high
If your halfway house manager and/or roommates are getting high in the halfway house and nothing is changing, I suggest looking into other options. Some halfway houses, like I said before, are strictly about making money and don’t care what people are doing.
4. There have been multiple physical altercations between you and your roommates
Constant fighting and getting into physical altercations with your roommates can be exhausting and not worth the hassle to keep going through over and over again. If you keep getting into fights with the girls, seek a new sober living residence.
5. Your food is constantly being eaten by the girls in the house
This is the worst; there’s nothing the grinds my gears like people who constantly eat my food without asking. Obviously, this isn’t serious enough to move out after one incident but if it continues happening and nothing is changing then see what other halfway houses there are out there.
6. The manager of the house is looking the other way when people are misbehaving
If your halfway house manager doesn’t seem to care or be doing anything about girls misbehaving and breaking the rules, then chances are this isn’t the best place for you to be working on your sobriety in.
7. No one is doing their chores or following any of the rules
This type of living situation would be hectic and uncomfortable for a person like me. I would get out while you can if the house isn’t being run properly by the owner and manager.
8. No one is working a program of recovery
I am so grateful that the halfway house I lived in really enforced working a program of recovery. If the house you’re in doesn’t seem to care about any of that, then I would find a new living arrangement.
9. Your belongings (money, clothes, etc.) have gone missing/have been stolen
This happened to one of my friends when she was in halfway and it was awful. Nothing feels worse than not feeling safe in your own home; if things keep going missing, start checking out other sober houses.
10. Your commitment is up and it might be time to go to a three-quarter way house or get your own place
Once your commitment has ended at a halfway house, some people may want to stay longer because they feel that they still need to be held accountable – but if you feel comfortable with moving on and getting a place of your own or going to a three-quarter way house, you should do that!
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