Feelings are important for human beings, there’s no doubt about it. they are interwoven in our daily human experience from birth to death. But the thing that sets us apart from other animals is our use of higher-level thinking. Our feelings and thinking work together in unique advanced ways. But the key for success is keeping them in balance with each other. Unfortunately, people with drug addiction have a lot of trouble with this balance. Emotions often take over their lives, creating a chaotic and stressful existence.

Feelings Are Not Necessarily Factual

When a person makes decisions, emotions and logic may both play a role.  Emotions are considered, but practical matters are also examined.  Sometimes the decisions may be more heavily influenced by logic and factual information.  For example, a person needing a job may feel desperate for money but would not allow that feeling to take over and make them steal something.

When someone uses more emotion, they may intentionally throw most of their logic out the window and hope for the best.  While these decisions can certainly work, sometimes they aren’t well thought out.  Feelings can be so strong and hard to ignore that they may be seen as absolute truth. If there is little good sense to go along with strong feelings, people can really pay a price for decisions made in this state of mind.

Emotions Justify Everything With Drug Addiction

Let’s take a look at how this blend of emotion and logic changes when a person is addicted to drugs. Drug addiction causes emotions to drive a person’s life. They have most likely misused drugs or alcohol to cope with painful feelings.  Drugs and alcohol stimulate emotions and make it difficult to think clearly.  When a person is addicted, they are like this all the time day and night. Whether they are down, up, or indifferent, it seems their emotions are always out of whack.  They become used to instant gratification and twisting logic to fit their addiction needs. Therefore, emotions become as important as facts to someone with a drug addiction.

When a person with drug addiction becomes angry, this feeling justifies and explains everything they do. If they feel disrespected or cheated by someone, their feelings will trump the facts in this situation. It matters less what the other person really did and more how the addicted person reacts emotionally.  Since their internal balance is tipped toward emotions, they have great difficulty accepting facts that contradict their reality. If they feel they need drugs to get through each day, the facts about how drugs affect their life are not given much importance.  This is why it is often so frustrating when a person refuses to go to drug rehab, even when they obviously need the help.

Drug Rehab Helps Clarify Feelings And Facts

When someone goes through drug rehab, they begin to understand how off-balance their feelings and logic have been for so long. They can start to see how their emotional decisions have added to their destructive lifestyle.  Finally with the clarity they get at drug rehab, they can start to put emotions and clear thinking back in the proper balance.

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Addiction has a lot of ups and downs - plenty of drama to go around for all.  As miserable as this can be for everyone involved, it does provide for a lot of excitement and intrigue.  So now that you have been to drug treatment and have been sober for a while, you have noticed your mood dipping somewhat.  Things just seem to drag on, you wonder what the point is half the time.  You are wondering if you’ve traded one form of misery for another.

Drama With Drug Addiction Fills Time

Let’s face it - drama creates activity, and activity helps the time pass.  Actively using drug addicts and alcoholics aren’t fond of being patient or delayed gratification.  The very act of rolling a joint, mixing up the drugs, getting the alcohol ready and poured, physically drinking it all day long, and running around town getting drugs creates quite a schedule of activity all day long.  If you lived that life and all that activity was removed from your schedule, you’d be faced with a pretty large void to fill.

Is It Depression Or Boredom

So is this truly a desperate time for you, facing the abyss of unfilled time before you?  Do you truly feel yourself slipping down the slope towards an aching depression with sleep problems, low self worth, increased sadness, appetite changes, and some suicidal thoughts?  Or could you simply be bored during your recovery?  Let me tell you, it is certainly possible to be depressed and have an addiction.  If that wasn’t addressed during your drug treatment period, contact someone from that facility immediately and tell them of your depression symptoms.

But also consider that you may have a very reasonable byproduct of dramatically removing the drama from your life - boredom.  In fact, occasional feelings of boredom would be far more common than true depression among people in addiction recovery.  Boredom and a somewhat letdown feeling can easily come after even joyous events such as weddings, graduations, and so on.  Drama is replaced by consistency and much fewer blips on the radar.

Add Fun And Healthy Activity Into Your Schedule

In order to adjust to the distinct lack of negative drama, you need to focus on putting some new healthy things in your schedule.  Put some fun things in there, too.  You need something to look forward to.  Positive anticipation and even some excitement is good to have.  Much better for you than all the drama.  When you start putting a few enjoyable things into your daily life, the clock will start to tick more quickly again.  Life will move forward, and you may just feel that gray cloud of boredom lift.

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You know all you need to know about staying sober, and really - those people at meetings annoy you.  You don’t really need to keep going to those anymore since you’ve got it handled.  And why should you stop seeing your old friends?  They know you can handle it when they drink in front of you.  Your drinking wasn’t that much of a problem in the first place.  You could probably even drink one or two and it wouldn’t make any difference.  You know who that is in your mind speaking to you?  Arrogance, and he doesn’t care a bit about your sobriety.

Arrogance Doesn’t Care About You

You may not think you are arrogant about your drinking.  You’re smart, you have made some changes already - you just wish people would stop treating you like you are some kind of dimwit.  Well, stop and think about that for a moment.  When you tell a preteen to start cleaning their room and they yell, “I know!” with a mad look on their face, then they really didn’t know.  They just didn’t want to look like they caught off guard not doing what they were supposed to (which is keeping their room decent on an every day basis).

Arrogance Is A Personal Defense With Addiction

Arrogance is a common defense mechanism for someone who’s annoyed at being  expected to do something they don’t want to do (because it’s hard, boring, requires consistent effort).  That preteen is scoffing at authority, believing that they really know what’s their priorities are.  They would rather text their friends, loaf on the couch, and stay out late instead of doing family chores, keeping their room decent, and coming home on time.

That may not be a perfect analogy, but it does illustrate how arrogance is just an attitude.  Anyone can have arrogance about anything, even sobriety. When you haven’t been to a meeting or seen your sponsor for a long time, you might have some arrogance.  When you skipped your aftercare because you already “got everything” you needed from your alcohol or drug treatment, you might have some arrogance.  When you start convincing yourself that you may not even be an alcoholic, you might have some arrogance.  That arrogance can blind you so much that you feel “surprised” when you relapse and find yourself in another hole.  And that’s precisely what you want to avoid, why arrogance can lead you right down a path to relapse.

Let Go Of Arrogance Get Back On Track With Sobriety

You really may not want to admit that you really do need help staying sober.  Nobody really likes to realize that they don’t have much control over something within themselves.  That can be a scary thought.  But when you can face that thought with honesty and take the next step to get help, you can get through it.  Maybe you need to go back to an alcohol treatment aftercare session.  Perhaps you need to see your alcohol treatment counselor for a few individual sessions so you can get a clear vision for your sobriety again.  Reach out, get back on track, and let some of the arrogance go.

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Drug addiction recovery is a very personal process.  Drug treatment centers provide lots of guidance, structure, and opportunities to learn.  Fellow addicts in recovery can provide both support and truthful feedback.  Family members can provide love and welcoming arms when drug treatment is over.  But when it comes down to brass tacks, the only thing that really matters in drug recovery is your effort.

Support From Everyone Really Matters During Addiction Recovery

All the players mentioned above are very important for a good recovery process.  Professionals, fellow addicts, and family members.  But if you aren’t making the most of your opportunity at drug treatment, none of their support or knowledge will help you.  It’s not like treating a broken bone.  Like it or not, your bone will eventually heal if set properly.  A doctor can give you antibiotics for a bacterial infection.  Even if you don’t like the doctor or the taste of the medicine, it will still kill the germs.

Drug treatment - that is a different story.  You need to be emotionally willing to go to work for drug treatment to be effective.  You cannot passively sit in counseling sessions or group therapy and expect everything to change for you.  Well, actually you could do that.  But you won’t gain much from the experience.  Drug treatment can’t be absorbed through osmosis or through a medication.  Meds can help with some of the physical symptoms of withdrawal, but true recovery is all done in your mind and heart.

Will You Let Drug Treatment Sink In A Little

Do you have to be thrilled that you are going to drug treatment?  No.  Do you have to voluntarily go to drug treatment in order for it to work?  No. But somewhere along the way, you need to allow a crack to form in the facade.  You need to allow something to soak in and take hold inside.  Some truth, something genuine, something that really speaks to you.  When that happens, you have something to move forward with.  If you continue to see drug treatment as another form of prison or as something just for other people, you will miss out on all its potential benefits.

All it takes is one small place for a piece of truth to wedge in and get stuck inside your soul.  Something about drug treatment you can trust and believe deep inside.  Something that tells you that you really can do this sobriety thing, you really can have a different life, and it will be worth it.  It all comes down to you, and each moment is a new chance at sobriety.

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Have you been draining the spirit out of your life with drugs and alcohol?  Do you wonder if you have any real purpose anymore to your life?  Many drug addicts and alcoholics feel this way after a while.  They just do what they need to do to survive every day. At some point, it may feel like they can’t turn back from their addiction.  They’ve lived that way too long to just stop. Without their addiction, they don’t know what they would do with their life.  They would feel directionless, helpless, and powerless against their own demons.

Addiction and Low Self Worth Common Partners

A person’s self worth is usually pretty low when they are addicted to drugs.  They live with an illusion of control, when really they are completely dependent on their drug of choice.  This can feel demoralizing and shallow, even as they defend their drug use to their loved ones.  They may sense that others see them as a washed up loser, not contributing anything to society.  This is why many addicts and alcoholics feel suicidal at times.  If this is their life, what’s the point of going on anymore?  Wouldn’t it cause everyone less pain if they just ended it?

Drug Treatment Helps Self Worth Come Through

It can take some time for a recovering drug addict to see their self worth shine through the shadows of their addiction.  When they can sense their genuine emotions and think more clearly, drug treatment can help them make sense of everything. Counselors will listen with patience and understanding, working with each addict to understand their personal voice.

Each person in drug treatment is given opportunities to support others and do things to help themselves.  When a person sees how their actions have value, their own sense of self worth can start to grow.  When they recognize their courage and affirm others for being courageous, they can more clearly see purpose in their life.

Drug Treatment Just First Step Of Building Self Worth

Of course, self worth is something that needs nurturing each and every day.  Everyone has days when they feel like they don’t matter, or that they do everything wrong, or that no one would miss them if they disappeared.  But drug treatment can help the truly wounded souls of drug addicts and alcoholics.  Drug treatment can help people put their shattered spirits back together so they can claim their place in the world again.

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