Serious Problems With Relationships and Addiction
Women with addictions usually experience a lot of emotional pain and turmoil before they turn to drugs and alcohol. Addiction in women usually forms along an emotional pathway. When the emotions get out of control or too intense to handle, these women use drugs and alcohol to cope. Turbulent relationships can be part of this emotional pathway.
Relationships Often Break Down With Mental Illness and Addiction
Women are often more outwardly emotional than men, especially in relationships. Men often complain that women get too wrapped up in feelings, and women wish men would show their emotions more often. A lot of this represents fairly normal gender differences and the typical relationship road bumps.
But for some people, mostly women, nearly all relationships seem filled with turmoil and intensity. They either feel abandoned or feel that something is wrong in the relationships. If you are involved with someone like this, it can feel like you are constantly playing tug-of-war or always on a roller coaster. There isn’t much contentment, peace, and happiness - only drama. A person with this kind of behavior may have a personality disorder or a serious anxiety disorder.
A person with this much mental distress may turn to drugs or alcohol to calm their intense feelings. Their concerns may seem justified at the time, but they might also be riddled with guilt or shame about their actions. This only makes the problem and their pain worse.
Drug Treatment Helps Mental Illness and Addiction Together
Drinking or using drugs might seem like it calms the storm for a while, providing some much needed temporary relief. But that’s all it is - a temporary lull in the storm. Drugs and alcohol actually make emotional imbalances come out more strongly in many cases. Inhibitions are dropped and a person makes choices they might usually hold back from. Depression and suicidality becomes intensified with depressants like alcohol. What appears to be a solution ends up adding a problem.
This is nothing to mess around with on your own. If you recognize yourself or a loved one in the examples above, start thinking about drug treatment right away. A mental illness or drug addiction is difficult enough to deal with on its own. Managing a dual diagnosis without professional drug treatment is like playing with a loaded gun. The situation is just too unpredictable and dangerous, and eventually, something really bad can happen.
Drug treatment will help the addiction and the mental illness at the same time, so a person can start feeling relief from both problems early on. Drug treatment is there for you any time you need it. Get information today and take the first step.
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June 12th, 2009 at 1:46 pm
I was wondering I feel like I have been almost controlled or groomed to start using pain pills from my partner. Often he will give me a painpill everytime we are around each other and he makes sure I have them to take when I complain of back pain and hes not around. I say no to them alot but like one time when we were having lunch he pulled out a pain pill prescription mind u and offered it to me since we were eating as it is better to take meds on a full stomach. I know he cares for me but is this a way of controlling me or? I find it confusing and sometimes dependant feelings emerge to. is there a name for this or?
June 12th, 2009 at 7:50 pm
Mandy,
He should not be giving you any prescription medication that isn’t yours - this is illegal and pain medication is sometimes a very controlled substance. The are often made of narcotics which are highly addictive. The reason he has them has nothing to do with a reason you might need pain relief. It sounds to me like he is trying to draw you into his drugged-up experience. He might feel better with his own use (or misuse) if he knows he’s not the only one. It’s a bad excuse to cover up what sounds like a problem.
And just because he may act in some ways that appear caring doesn’t mean that this activity is a caring thing. Getting you hooked on pain pills is a very uncaring behavior. I think your gut feeling is telling you something important. You seem to feel a dependency growing and I believe you are probably right. The words “groomed” and “controlled” are very telling.
Probably the first thing you need to do is speak to a medical doctor, preferably someone who is a pain specialist, so they can help you know how to stop taking them. You may be starting an addiction and suddenly stopping pain medication can be very uncomfortable. Also, you need to tell your partner that this is a problem and you can’t take their pain medication anymore. If you aren’t sure you can do that, then perhaps some counseling would help you figure out how to manage your relationship situation.
No matter what, it seems you are going further and further down a dark hole. It’s time to get out of it while you still have some clear vision and strength. I’m glad you reached out and wrote to this blog.
The best of luck to you, and write back if you need to.