Married To An Alcoholic Woman
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If you are married to an alcoholic woman, you have a heart wrenching challenge. Marriage is supposed to be about two people sharing their lives with each other. Alcoholism cuts one person off and creates an emotional black hole in the relationship. Take a look at the ways alcoholism can affect you, your children, and your wife.
Compulsion To Do Dangerous Things
Alcoholism is more than just drinking a lot of alcohol. It also involves a dangerous compulsion to keep drinking despite knowing the consequences. A compulsion is a strong urge to do something over and over. Often this activity becomes dangerous and all-consuming when the compulsion takes over. Compulsion causes an alcoholic to drink high levels of alcohol which impairs judgment, releases inhibition, and heightens emotions. When she drinks this much, she does a lot of damage to her body. She is also at risk for drunk driving, poor performance at work, and sabotaging family relationships.
Your Marriage May Not Survive
These can all make an alcoholic woman a poor marriage partner. She is not likely to consider her husband’s needs, may spend money recklessly, may not communicate very well, and may not be very dependable. Perhaps in an intoxicated state she tells her in-laws some terrible things. She may act erratically at family events, cheat on her husband, steal from the family funds, or completely isolate herself in her home. These circumstances can weigh heavily on a marriage.
Instead of having a mature adult partner, a husband has a reckless child to care for. Even the most patient spouses can have difficulty enduring this for long. Alcohol rehab can help a marriage get back on track, but
there are no guarantees.
Protect Your Kids From The Effects of Alcoholism
Anytime an alcoholic is left directly in charge of children, the danger level goes up. Young children are at a much higher risk for neglect an injury. They may be left in dirty diapers for long periods, not feed adequately, and allowed to roam through the house unsupervised. Even older children need supervision and guidance through their day. Having an alcoholic parent in the home means they must learn to fend for themselves. Kids grow up and leave their carefree childhood mindset behind long before they are ready. This can lead to discipline problems and reckless behaviors. If your wife is alcoholic, you need to protectyour kids. Learn how alcoholism is affecting them and do whatever you can to keep them safe. Encouraging your wife to go to alcohol rehab is a good start.
Alcohol Rehab Can Give Your Marriage A Chance
DUI arrests, problems staying focused at work, and financial difficulties may not be enough to make an alcoholic woman change her behaviors. Your marriage can erode before your eyes if she continues drinking. She needs support and encouragement to get help with her alcoholism. This isn’t a matter of will power or being strong enough to handle it. Your alcoholic wife will have the best chance if you help her get started with alcohol rehab today.
Tags: Alcohol Rehab, alcohol treatment, Married to an Alcoholic Woman
August 2nd, 2011 at 11:17 pm
I love my wife of 12 years, Sherri very much, but I have reached the breaking point. We nearly lost our children to protective services a few years ago. Last monday we went to a wedding and she got very drunk and her behavior was pathetic. I also think she may have been unfaithful. I hate to break up our home but I don’t think she will ever recover from her addiction.
September 15th, 2011 at 7:58 pm
My wife is an alcoholics. She has fooled many peiople for many year - except my maid, me, and few close friends - that don’t want to be close anymore. Most people don’t know about it. She is a master at drinking with other. Many know she has a drinking problem but, she can hide it until late in the evening or when she knows it is just me and her. We had a wonderful life that has slowly and quickly degraded. At first most thougt I was crazy when I told them what was going on - very few saw her ‘mean and nasty’ - she played the part of a well dressed and ‘good friend’ to woman - a woman bonding thing. We have not been close for years and she is content with the lifestyle i’ve given her since she can function durning the day and drink at night. I’ve lived in a ‘nice prison’ trying to hope things will change - they won’t.
She should be a politician because she doesn’t have feelings and can be nice to people than cruel to me in a milisecond.
I’ve got too many bad stories to tell. My male friends don’t want to be around her - our female friends either give her a pass or don’t believe me.
Amyway - she is a very mean drunk and has no remose for her actions.
As a Catholic this is very hard to take and made me stay in the marriage for obious reasons. God didn’t intend for this to happen but, humans mess it up. My failth has kept me going but, I do need to protect my children. Children shouldn’t see their mother drunk and overly affectionate - they are smarter than I am or give them credi tfor.
Men of woman alcoholics hold a silent pain - trying to tough it out and seeing the woman they would die over hurt them and smash the pedistle they used to deserve to be on. It hurts more when other women tell me that I am foolish to waste my time with my wife because they would marry me and make me happy in a second. Tempting but, the devil can trick us all.
thanks for listening.